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Mar 14Liked by Jessica DeFino

Jesus christ this is a fucking gold mine

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“Nobody leaves a cult overnight” - Yes! This allows room for self-compassion, which we need to practice the most. The point is not simply to have a new reason to punish ourselves. Great interview. 🖤

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Mar 15Liked by Jessica DeFino

SO GOOD. I’ve been on a two-week long binge reading session of basically your entire body of work (unpublishable and related articles) and let me just say you’ve changed my life! I feel like I’ve been searching for someone saying these things for years - and apparently I was looking for you!!!

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Mar 14Liked by Jessica DeFino

I wish less women would participate in perpetuating this problem. Not necessarily through doing less beauty duty --which indeed hard to give up without risking our voices and agency -- but through our consumption of media. I notice that women too also pay more attention to the plastic queens selling BS vs. plain faced experts offering their experience & truth. We are half the world, honestly, if we just supported each other, we wouldn’t need the opinions of the other half. I find this so frustrating.

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Mar 14Liked by Jessica DeFino

I really enjoyed this. Especially the bit about dandruff and realizing: this is a human body, and I love this human body.

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Mar 14·edited Mar 14Liked by Jessica DeFino

INACTIVITY! No movement, no change is where things die. When we don't welcome the natural changes in time as in nature, we die. Little death happens inside when we try to mimic someone's younger much dewey phase of skin. How sad. What about that map that shows how one has truly lived. Their gorgeous journey in time. The dips, the scars, the rosy cheeks...Real Beauty changes!

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Mar 16Liked by Jessica DeFino

“In short, it came down to: I only have so many resources, do I want to spend them being smart or feeling like I’m pretty enough?”

Yes!

I strive to live like this every day. My time, energy, brain power are valuable resources.

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Reading the excerpt and her descriptions of what these young children go through is torture plain and simple, child abuse to boot. How this industry is ever allowed to exist is criminal. Great interview.

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Mar 17Liked by Jessica DeFino

Obviously bought the book IMMEDIATELY! This article needs a second read to try and imprint some of the genius...

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God, I loved this interview. Bravo.

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Mar 19Liked by Jessica DeFino

“there is no way to be physically beautiful without being compliant and controlled”

I loved this interview.

I just have to feral scream “anti-semitism” into the beauty-social-media-internet void.

And the standard, the perfect look, is always out of reach, just beyond the finger-tips. That beauty queen who met the standard yesterday, is old today. And every beauty queen this society upholds as “most beautiful” is achieving the results through surgeries and needles.

And the key facial feature being surgically fucked with is the nose. No Jewish, Romani, Mediterranean, North African, Middle-Eastern, Spanish Moor, Italian, Brooklyn, Bronx features are allowed in an American white woman in the media (dear god the beauty filters are so anti-Semitic, why the fuck do these apps give me a fucking button nose filter) (fuck Instagram), no frizz, freckles, rolls, bumps. By god, white women stamp out any features that are a touch too ethnic. Gotta adhere to those WWII standards.

Be careful, faithful devotees, “wavy” blonde hair texture is pushing it, you don’t want to look like you enjoy dancing by a campfire.

The Nazis fucked up women psychologically more than we will ever know.

I wonder if for Kim Kardashian, if being married to an anti-Semite, had an affect on her choice of surgeries. Everyone knows what I’m talking about.

Okay, I’m done.

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This is so fucking good. Thank you, Jessica!

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