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Aug 9, 2022·edited Aug 9, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

I have spent much of my life since middle school feeling like a failure at this whole "being a girl" business. I didn't understand how to apply makeup or how to justify spending tons of money on it. I didn't understand getting up early to "put on my face" and do my hair, instead of just, y'know, sleeping another hour (or even two for some folks). I didn't understand why I would use multiple products to care for my skin when washing it with gentle soap, a basic moisturizer from the natural food co-op, eating whole foods and drinking plenty of water seemed to work just as well.

Instead of feeling smarter than the beauty industry, however, I just felt like there was something about being a woman that I didn't get. That I was somehow less successfully female.

This newsletter isn't helping me deprogram my participation in the beauty industry, but it is helping feel less judgmental of myself for never participating much in the first place.

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I looove this perspective! Thank you for sharing <3

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WILD APPLAUSE

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Thank youuuu!

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Aug 9, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

UGH. YES. the product/labor $ comparison toward the end was especially poignant.

also the quote from Tricia Hersey sorta reminds me of Laurie Anderson's "Institutional Dream Series" from the 70s where she slept in public places.

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Oooh I have to check that out!

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Aug 9, 2022·edited Aug 9, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

Tfw you think an eye cream will fix your hereditary dark circles when really all you need is more iron lmao

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True!!

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Aug 9, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

This is one particularly punchy summation of your writing!

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Lol thank you!

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Aug 9, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

THIS WAS IT.

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:) :) :)

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