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Oct 25, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

My mind is blown by this. The consumption, the consumerism, all for what?! I sort of read this in fast forward as a list of everything you were saying and my mind swirled. I remember Cucumber Melon and buying a packet consisting of a wipe that was called pheromones and putting that on my neck prior to going to a club. I had completely forgotten about that memory. What was my end goal? I didn't even like men invading my personal space uninvited and gyrating...yet I put on the pheromones. It took 40 years of ups and downs and all arounds, but I'll say I am finally me. No added pheromones. No added anything. Its glorious. I hope one day it doesn't take 40 years to just say no to all the nonsense.

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Oct 25, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

I see myself in this and it is poetry. Thank you.

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this might be one of the best pieces of yours. and i love ALL OF THEM.

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Oct 26, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

"And I need everyone to believe I do this all for me" Once we start really pondering on THAT, the curtain lifts.

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I have been trying to wrap my head around these same feelings for years. Thank you for helping me feel less alone.

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Oct 25, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

Good lord you are on FIRE. The way this awakened all those early aughts memories for me, except with the awareness now that we were literal children when they made the intentional choice to market this shit to us, makes me want to vomit. America has always been okay with sacrificing its children I guess, whether it's to capitalism or gun rights lunatics or any other horrifying thing.

I also had a random flashback to some website in the late aughts that would rate women's attractiveness? Like you submitted your picture and got rated? Am I hallucinating this or was it real?

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Maybe this is weird to say but I love you very much. Thank you for your brilliance. And for seeing us.

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Oct 25, 2022·edited Oct 25, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

I see myself in every line of this. Thank you so much for writing it and for sharing it with us. THIS is the kind of analysis (and so beautifully and hauntingly written!) that I crave and what makes my subscription to The Unpublishable worth every cent. I hope you never stop writing. <3

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Ouch. This hit home so very hard. It also prompted me to buy Leslie C. Bell's book, so thank you for that. The commodification of women and how very VERY early it starts has always been horrifying, but this explained it so very clearly.

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Oct 25, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

This is phenomenal. I am so glad I found you, and The Unpublishable - such brilliance. Thank you!

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Oct 25, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

This is very "Beauty Myth," in the best way. That book and Backlash were the backbone of my feminist awakening. It really sucks that Naomi Wolf's mind has taken the direction it has.

Thank you for this.

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Oct 25, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

Damn

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Oct 25, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

Beautiful writing.

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Oct 25, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

Yes. Thank you for making this connection (and in the most beautiful and visceral prose to boot). Consumption and literally being consumed! Gahh!

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Oct 25, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

Excellent writing. Blown away.

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Consumerism! Brilliant! xo

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