So interesting. I have naturally curly hair. I’ve recently been blessed with adult acne and ever since it broke out I’ve insisted on wearing my hair straight every day to “cancel out” the breakout on my chin, in my mind if I can make my hair look conventionally attractive then my breakout is forgiven.
So interesting. I have naturally curly hair. I’ve recently been blessed with adult acne and ever since it broke out I’ve insisted on wearing my hair straight every day to “cancel out” the breakout on my chin, in my mind if I can make my hair look conventionally attractive then my breakout is forgiven.
Yep. I was just thinking of how I've felt pretty comfortable with myself lately and not wearing makeup. I went fresh-faced and naturally translucent eyelashed to my family xmas which is a glam event. But then reading this, I know it's 100% because my acne cleared up this year and I don't feel obligated to give myself something nice for others to look at. I didn't really have acne until I was about 24, and then I all of a sudden got pretty severe adult acne. It made me pay more attention to my body size(s), hair, makeup, and clothing to "offset" this.
Same here! This thread helped me realize that the reason I spent hours straightening and then curling and dying my hair in college was because I was struggling with intense acne. I was obsessed with making my naturally curly/poofy Italian hair sleek and wavy because it was the main thing I could control during that time when my skin was having a huge impact on my self esteem. (side note: I definitely got more male attention/compliments when my hair was "conventional model"-looking ie straight and long with a bit of waves. It literally felt like a switch I turned on and off when I wanted to be looked at vs not....yikes). Now that I've accepted that my skin doesn't have to be perfect (and treated most of the underlying conditions of my acne) I do nothing to my hair and have gained back so much time in my life - plus I feel like "myself" all the time, which is really the best feeling ever.
Ouch, I felt this one deeply. When I'm having a bad day with other facets of my appearance for one reason or another, especially my thoughts regarding my current weight and body, I tend to zero in on "fixing" my naturally curly hair and will spend quite a bit of extra time trying to make it look more sleek-- flat ironing, roller setting, updos, root touch ups with bleach, anything to make it look "better." My hair was the first thing I ever felt self conscious about, and I know in some way that's a fortunate thing compared to the experiences of others, but I definitely internalized and honed in on being called poofy and frizzy by other kids. I know logically it's quite silly of me to be so fixated on it, especially as it's so trivial in the grand scheme and chased by things that leople from my literal elementary school said to me, but at the end of the day if I'm unhappy with something, anything, I'm unhappy with my hair.
So interesting. I have naturally curly hair. I’ve recently been blessed with adult acne and ever since it broke out I’ve insisted on wearing my hair straight every day to “cancel out” the breakout on my chin, in my mind if I can make my hair look conventionally attractive then my breakout is forgiven.
Yep. I was just thinking of how I've felt pretty comfortable with myself lately and not wearing makeup. I went fresh-faced and naturally translucent eyelashed to my family xmas which is a glam event. But then reading this, I know it's 100% because my acne cleared up this year and I don't feel obligated to give myself something nice for others to look at. I didn't really have acne until I was about 24, and then I all of a sudden got pretty severe adult acne. It made me pay more attention to my body size(s), hair, makeup, and clothing to "offset" this.
Same here! This thread helped me realize that the reason I spent hours straightening and then curling and dying my hair in college was because I was struggling with intense acne. I was obsessed with making my naturally curly/poofy Italian hair sleek and wavy because it was the main thing I could control during that time when my skin was having a huge impact on my self esteem. (side note: I definitely got more male attention/compliments when my hair was "conventional model"-looking ie straight and long with a bit of waves. It literally felt like a switch I turned on and off when I wanted to be looked at vs not....yikes). Now that I've accepted that my skin doesn't have to be perfect (and treated most of the underlying conditions of my acne) I do nothing to my hair and have gained back so much time in my life - plus I feel like "myself" all the time, which is really the best feeling ever.
Ouch, I felt this one deeply. When I'm having a bad day with other facets of my appearance for one reason or another, especially my thoughts regarding my current weight and body, I tend to zero in on "fixing" my naturally curly hair and will spend quite a bit of extra time trying to make it look more sleek-- flat ironing, roller setting, updos, root touch ups with bleach, anything to make it look "better." My hair was the first thing I ever felt self conscious about, and I know in some way that's a fortunate thing compared to the experiences of others, but I definitely internalized and honed in on being called poofy and frizzy by other kids. I know logically it's quite silly of me to be so fixated on it, especially as it's so trivial in the grand scheme and chased by things that leople from my literal elementary school said to me, but at the end of the day if I'm unhappy with something, anything, I'm unhappy with my hair.