I learned from this thread that it’s still very triggering for me to read comments from other women about the body parts/features they like (that I don’t have), even in the context of talking about tradeoffs they come off as humblebrags. I have nothing to recommend me and given my age, never will. After spending oodles of money on cosmet…
I learned from this thread that it’s still very triggering for me to read comments from other women about the body parts/features they like (that I don’t have), even in the context of talking about tradeoffs they come off as humblebrags. I have nothing to recommend me and given my age, never will. After spending oodles of money on cosmetic surgery, I learned mostly that beauty can’t be bought. I find that I feel best about myself when I don’t have opportunities to compare myself to others.
Thank you so much for your kind words. I was really surprised by how bad some of the comments made me feel - I don’t spend much time anymore thinking about how I fall short and I guess I thought I was past it, but really the avoidance of invitations to do so is key. Lesson learned!
Too, this wasn’t the purpose of the post. Nonetheless it elicited the type of simultaneously smug and self-hating analyses that are the product of a culture in which women are pitted against each other in competition for status based primarily on physical appearance. I don’t blame individuals for this - I engage in similar analyses in my head. It’s a sickness to which we are all susceptible.
I learned from this thread that it’s still very triggering for me to read comments from other women about the body parts/features they like (that I don’t have), even in the context of talking about tradeoffs they come off as humblebrags. I have nothing to recommend me and given my age, never will. After spending oodles of money on cosmetic surgery, I learned mostly that beauty can’t be bought. I find that I feel best about myself when I don’t have opportunities to compare myself to others.
That makes me sad… Please love yourself.
Thank you so much for your kind words. I was really surprised by how bad some of the comments made me feel - I don’t spend much time anymore thinking about how I fall short and I guess I thought I was past it, but really the avoidance of invitations to do so is key. Lesson learned!
Too, this wasn’t the purpose of the post. Nonetheless it elicited the type of simultaneously smug and self-hating analyses that are the product of a culture in which women are pitted against each other in competition for status based primarily on physical appearance. I don’t blame individuals for this - I engage in similar analyses in my head. It’s a sickness to which we are all susceptible.