This thread is just chock full of realness and vulnerability. Thanks for all of your posts, folks. When I hit 50 last year I definitely began noticing the “invisibility” that seems to come with it, especially after ditching Botox, Kybella, makeup, heels, etc. over the past few years. I, too, would negotiate - I could be plus size/fat if …
This thread is just chock full of realness and vulnerability. Thanks for all of your posts, folks. When I hit 50 last year I definitely began noticing the “invisibility” that seems to come with it, especially after ditching Botox, Kybella, makeup, heels, etc. over the past few years. I, too, would negotiate - I could be plus size/fat if my wardrobe was edited and expensive. I could let my grays grow in if I had false eyelashes for a doe-eyed look, and on and on. But then I did a little experiment and started divesting little by little and looking at how much money I was saving not literally buying into the beauty machine. And I’m now saving for a house (can’t wait to experience home ownership for the first time as a middle aged person!) and planning trips to see friends and family. I’m happier.
congratulations!! yes the money saved is so real. and i remind myself--like i was not looking pretty for me. i can’t see what i look like as i move through the world! so i’ll divest and spend money on things that are actually For Me. Good luck saving!!
This thread is just chock full of realness and vulnerability. Thanks for all of your posts, folks. When I hit 50 last year I definitely began noticing the “invisibility” that seems to come with it, especially after ditching Botox, Kybella, makeup, heels, etc. over the past few years. I, too, would negotiate - I could be plus size/fat if my wardrobe was edited and expensive. I could let my grays grow in if I had false eyelashes for a doe-eyed look, and on and on. But then I did a little experiment and started divesting little by little and looking at how much money I was saving not literally buying into the beauty machine. And I’m now saving for a house (can’t wait to experience home ownership for the first time as a middle aged person!) and planning trips to see friends and family. I’m happier.
congratulations!! yes the money saved is so real. and i remind myself--like i was not looking pretty for me. i can’t see what i look like as i move through the world! so i’ll divest and spend money on things that are actually For Me. Good luck saving!!