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Have you read How to do Nothing by Jenny Odell? I had to look at it when, last Sunday at 6:30pm, I found out that my 3 kids would not be going to school the following morning. I HAVE SO MANY RESOLUTIONS TO ACCOMPLISH!!! Was replaced with the instant re-centering joy of IF I PAY ATTENTION, EVERYTHING IS WONDROUS. I don't need busyness and productivity to define my self worth; I need only to be quiet and focus on what's happening in front of me. Nothing I could buy or achieve would replace the delight in paying attention. Thank you for the sanity as always :)

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YES!! I'm in the middle of it right now and loving it.

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The works cited is a curriculum unto itself. When I read it, as when I read your essays, I felt such relief. Like: Right! I don't have to feel so terrified/ frazzled and overwhelmed all the time. I can take my attention and my humanness back. Vive la resistance!!

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Soooo aggravating and sad to read how Hudson (and so many others!) have conflated our need for slowness and presence with a need to buy things. Like, this is mindfulness? You can legit sit on the floor or lay down for ten minutes and do a body scan and experience the same (or more) benefits. And also, putting stuff on your skin in the hopes that it will stay a certain way is not self-care but aggression! Thank you for being a voice of reason.

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YES, YES, YES. "Not self-care but aggression" — could not agree more!!

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Jan 11, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

I do wonder when I got programmed to think that rituals needed to involve products! This made me think of when I moved to Australia at the age of 11, back in my home country, you didn't need any products or other luxuries to feel happy and content. A bit to dissect here on my end!

So well written, really love everything I read on here. Thank you Jessica - you have truly pulled me out of my misery I didn't even know I was in!!!

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Yesss dissect away! The process of uncovering your conditioning and de-conditioning is only gets more fascinating the deeper you dive. Thank you so much for being here and sharing that xx

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Jan 10, 2022Liked by Jessica DeFino

I wouldn’t buy crap from any celebrity.

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I bought a Kylie Lip Kit back in the day... but I've since learned my lesson.

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Loved every word of this. Thank you. Keeping this post in my inbox so I can read it again and again. (This one really hit home for me!) Also, I couldn't resist clicking the link to the Secure Attachment Serum and read the description... "developed with mental health experts"???? WTF WHY?!!

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Thank you, that makes me so happy to hear! And yeah... that product... I don't KNOW hahaha. It's obviously well-intentioned but so, so far off the mark??

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That quote about doing things reminded me of Kylie Jenner saying "This is the year of realizing stuff"

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Hahaha omg, I was working for the Kardashian-Jenner Apps when that video was filmed and released and our team got in sooooo much shit for letting that quote go public 😭

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Hey, I mean on the other hand you could say it gained her extra clout, no? No publicity is bad publicity? Or is that statement out now?

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